Wild Women Wednesday is a monthly interview with amazing military mama bloggers. Far too many women are caught up in the disease of competition with one another; everyone just wants to be Instagram famous, with no qualms about tearing one another down in the process. My hope is that this becomes a series that builds community and friendship in the blogosphere.
Meet Jennifer; a yoga loving, OCD, mom of a three year old, and three fur babies. A self-identified neat freak, doing her best to leave the world a better place; all while it seems the world has turned upside down. Jennifer is from a variety of places in Pennsylvania, growing up mostly between Philadelphia & Lancaster. Currently married in to an Active Duty Air Force Guy, she and her family have recently, been lucky enough to escape what is commonly referred to as the “black hole base” in New Mexico. She currently resides in in the sweet state of Georgia.
What are your thoughts on the term ‘dependa’?
First I suppose we shall start with an informative definition of the word “Dependa”… because, I don’t know what that is. A brief description I have just stumbled upon on the “reliable” source of the internet say’s (I am paraphrasing) “Dependa” is someone who fully relies on the military spouse for everything. Spending all the money on pay day to buy wanted items, and then searching for free things. They also believe that they deserve the same entitlement as the spouse enlisted. My take on this, it certainly shouldn’t be contained to just military spouses… I feel like a lot of people live this way, male and female. I don’t really like labels so I guess my take is that, it bothers me. I don’t personally think that the “dependa” way of life is appropriate. All though I am an empathetic person, and I can understand buying a wanted item, I don’t believe spending all of it is okay on day one, and then desiring hand outs from others who may actually be struggling themselves. I do, also understand (because, of my cursed amount of empathy) in accepting free things… but, when its appropriate! I personally prefer be on the giving side of of the hand out’s! I go out of my way to do as much good, and help out when I can, whether that be my time, or materialistically! I also believe that complaints should always be given where they are warranted! As for the “entitlement” I am not all about that. I don’t even identify with military, when my husband, or someone who understands the military life tries to talking to me in all of those abbreviations… I just don’t get it. I am a life, as is my husband. We both believe every being should be treated with respect & empathy regardless of ones job, or any other aspect of another’s life… (with few exceptions… we all have a few people whom have lost some respect for personal reasons.)
Do you think people know how hard bloggers work?
I do not think that people fully understand a full time, or even a part time blogger’s job as tough! I am a part time blogger and finding time… it is ROUGH! Even to find time to type this wonderful “Wild Women Wednesday” interview (thank you Emma 🙂 ) was tough! If you are a perfectionist, like I am, then you want to do it right, and that requires a lot of QUALITY time, and dedication to make it the best it can be! Not only is it a time management ordeal, but, being able to spill a portion of who you are, and try to display that into words… that in itself is a beautiful, scary intimate aspect. It can be a challenge to sometimes try to convey the proper words, so as not to intentionally offend, or intimidate the readers. It is also a challenge in maintaining the focus of your post, and keeping your dear, loyal, and new supports with you on the journey till the end of that specific blog post… and, hopefully keep them interested enough to have them want to come back for more adventures that you wish to share! It really is tough, and can definitely be intimidating!
Describe a typical day for you?
My typical day usually starts at the sound of my alarm clock (usually I will hear Frank Sinatra, or some beautiful score from a movie) at 6:15 Am. Vitally, it’s coffee, and scrolling through Facebook, Pinterest, or if I am inspired Blogging for about 45 minutes… with a coffee in hand , and snuggled under my blankets listening to the soft snore of my three fur babies 🙂 Then, it’s quick sun salutation (yoga), Make up (Honest Beauty <3), hair, and make my bed… and the dogs beds. Chaos then ensues as my three year old wakes up! Then, it’s breakfast (usually oatmeal), and getting her dressed, her hair, making her bed…then off to her school! Once, she is at school, I go do things like groceries or whatever. Sometimes I will go to a yoga class 🙂 After I pick her up, its snack then she naps while I take a quick break with a cup of tea! Next, I clean up the house, or whatever my task is that day written in my OCD life source… my (Slytherin) planner. While I am doing that my daughter is doing her yoga. Then, it’s late lunch/early dinner. (large portion of vegetables) Followed by, play time, till she goes to bed between 6:30-7:00. Then, I get my self set up for the next day, coffee ready for the morning, and plan out my next day! Finally, time for me, it’s either yoga (while watching a re-run of Game of Thrones… because it makes me happy), blogging, or I just hang out with my dogs for a little bit and watch the news, or something else good on T.V. 8:45-9:00 I get ready for bed. Lastly, after reading for about an hour it’s lights out… at which point I am exhausted!
What is the focus of your blog and why did you choose that niche?
First… let me geek off after the title of this question. Mmmkay, thanks Mr.Squirrels 😉 The focus of my blog, I guess it’s pretty standard life/mom things. I chose that because it is my everyday, and most inspirational since I will always have something to write about. My favorite topic however is home decor! I am passionate about beauty in all things. Since I live at my house… that is what I always try to keep most most beautiful. 🙂
Where would you love to live? Why? Anything specific you want to do there?
Realistically I would love to live in Massachusetts, or Villanova/Media area of Pennsylvania! I have a deep, love of old historical homes, cute, towns, and 4 seasons! I absolutely love cooler weather, and rain! I want to be able to go on long hikes through woods, be close to beaches, and have more campfire heat than sunlight heat 🙂 Really I am just a normal North Eastern born and raised kind of girl! Oh, and Wawa… I want to be able to go to Wawa often! I can only imagine so many people just got so confused at what in the hell a Wawa is haha! Un-realistically I would love to live in France, or England! I have always been fascinated of France from the time I was little… I remember doing little projects for school, I always choose something that had to do with France! England, because I have about half of my dad’s side of the family from there! I is a really beautiful country and I blend in nicely… I don’t even have to much fake an accent… I heard it so much growing up 🙂
Are you confident? (Do you have any tips for those of us that are not?)
I do think I am confident. There isn’t much that I am afraid of so I guess you could look at that as fearless, or confident. I just do whatever it is that needs to be done, or whatever it is that is a harmless desire! I figure what do I have to lose. I can really thank my dad for that I suppose… and also this is going to sound crazy… but, my (7 year relationship) ex-boyfriend. Both of them were always very encouraging at critical points in my life… and they themselves have always been fearless! As, I got older I have found that yoga is a big confidence booster! Yoga is a great place to start if you need to find some inner positivity, and confidence! It will help you to become aware of things that you never really noticed before within yourself, and life as a whole… at least my experience 🙂
What’s in your handbag?
Here we go.. haha.
I have my wristlet (which I use as my wallet),
New England Patriots Lanyard of keys… yeah that’s right, PATS! 😉
If I am leaving the house
my Slytherin planner, and my superfine ball point black ink pen (the ONLY pens I use haha).
iPhone with “Khalessi” (Game of Thrones) case on.
My sunglasses, & my kids sunglasses
Other then that you would find…
-2 monster training paints
I can’t handle much chaos… everything must be in it’s “Home” in my whichever bag I am using that day. Just like in my house… every item goes “home’ at the end of the day 🙂
Green living, natural products, carbon footprint; where do you stand on these issues?
I try to keep my house, and my families lives as green as as it can be! We use almost entirely Honest Co. or Seventh Generation, when I can’t use ordinary natural products like vinegar, hydrogen peroxide, baking soda… things like that. I buy 85% groceries Organic, or NON GMO, I severely dislike processed foods, especially canned or things in jars! My dogs even get the good stuff BLUE! I use my own grocery bags, and produce bags. I buy quality over quantity so I can buy less often… with most things! I am more of a minimalist, so that helps with the carbon footprint I suppose, as well as with my dismissal of colors worn and in my house hah. We make a lot of our own furniture from recycled materials… also because I have OCD and if I can see a piece in my head… that’s how it has to be haha! My daughter and I do yoga (she also does “ballet”), my husband works out… we are always striving to be the best versions of ourselves, so that maybe we can help others to their fullest potential! We try our best to go above and beyond for each other… and friends/family. I am the only one in my house who is a vegan… because, I don’t like to see animals suffering. Yes it can be expensive, and it has it’s challenges… but, to help save some lives, it’s worth it to me! We try to give back as often as we can to those in need! We are on this earth to live to our fullest. We believe we can achieve that if we keep ourselves healthy, and try to alleviate the chemicals, and waste on the planet… and most importantly all inclusively, do good for everything, and every being!
What advice do you know now, you wish you had pre-kids?
This might sound crazy… but, that it isn’t as hard as I had always imagined when I was younger. That being said, I only have one kid. The only time I really find it challenging, is that because I am married to the military… I don’t have much help with a a sitter if I need one. It really has never bothered me though. I guess that goes back to my confidence. I always knew I could handle whatever situation, and find a way to achieve what I needed to, whether that was on my own, or with my husband around. Drive from New Mexico to Pennsylvania being the only adult, with three dogs and a two year old, many times… no problem haha!
Do you believe in God? Why or why not?
This is sort of tricky question to answer for me. I believe there is a higher power out there. I personally feel that I do not have the right to chose which source of higher power that is. I feel that everyone is entitled to believe in their god(s)… who am I to try and claim which one is the real one(s)? For all I know, they are all the same with a different name(s)! I also, absolutely believe in karma… I have witnessed that many times… guy cut me off on the highway, few miles down… just smile as you pass him talking to the cop, don’t be like that guy 🙂
Wow! Thank you for such well thought out and comprehensive answers Jennifer! I really enjoyed the peek inside your head and getting to know you better. I sincerely hope your blog grows and flourishes. <3
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